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Family & Parent Support for Teens With Eating Disorders and Trauma

Helping parents and caregivers who feel exhausted, unsure, and afraid of making things worse. So you can feel steadier, less alone, and more confident supporting your teen’s healing.

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Feel less alone

We slow things down so you can support your teen without burning yourself out.

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Support your teen

Build a clear plan that protects your teen and your relationship.

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Create a calmer home

Create routines and responses that reduce tension and restore safety at home.

You feel like your teen's eating disorder & trauma is all your fault.

Most parents and caregivers we work with are doing everything they can and still feel like they are getting it wrong. You might be terrified your teen is not eating enough, worried about shutdowns or self-harm, and constantly second guessing what to say. You love your teen deeply and feel trapped between saying too much or not doing enough.

Parent support is a place where your fear and grief can be held too. Together, we focus on how to respond in ways that align with your values and actually support your teen’s nervous system.

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Does any of this sound familiar?

If you recognize yourself here, it does not mean you are failing. It means you are carrying something that was never meant to be handled alone.

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What is Family & Parent Support?

This work is not about blaming you. It is about supporting you so you can be a steadier anchor for your teen.

Parent  support sessions are for caregivers of teens navigating eating disorders, disordered eating, neurodivergence, and trauma. Sometimes we meet with parents on their own. Sometimes we include the teen when that feels helpful and agreed upon. These sessions give you space to ask honest questions, share fears, and get clear guidance without feeling like you are making things worse.

Together, we talk through what is happening at home and translate the science of eating disorders, trauma, and nervous systems into practical support. This may include meals, school, medical appointments, or social stress. You leave with concrete ideas, language you can use, and a clearer sense of how to show up with care and confidence.

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Are you facing any of these challenges?

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Maybe dinner turns into arguments, tears, or long stretches of silence. You watch every bite and also hate that you are watching every bite. In our work, we create a plan for meals that is realistic for your family, grounded in recovery principles, and designed to protect both your teen and your relationship with them.

One person tells you to push for more food. Another says not to make a big deal about it. Together we sort through the noise, clarify what is actually evidence-informed and aligned with your teen’s needs, and find language for setting boundaries with others.

You might rehearse conversations in your head and still walk away feeling like you messed it up. In parent sessions, we practice real phrases, troubleshoot hard moments, and notice what helps your teen’s nervous system feel safer. The goal is not to be a perfect parent. The goal is to be a repair oriented, responsive one.

If you set limits, you worry you are being controlling. If you back off, you worry you are neglecting something serious. It can feel like there is no right move. Together we look at your values, your teen’s safety, and the bigger picture so your choices feel more grounded and less like constant damage control.

You replay decisions, conversations, and moments from years ago, wondering which one “caused” this. You might feel guilty for not catching things earlier, for trusting certain providers, or for not always knowing what to do. In our work, we name that guilt, place it in context, and shift from “What did I do wrong?” to “What can I do now that supports my teen and myself?”

Supporting a teen through this can poke at old wounds you thought were settled. You might notice your own body image, eating patterns, or trauma reactions becoming louder. In our work, there is room for your story too. We can separate what belongs to your teen and what belongs to you and find support for both, without making you the problem.

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Techniques We Use In Therapy

These approaches guide how we support parents and teens. You do not need to understand therapy models to benefit. Our role is to translate what matters most into clear, practical support for your family.

If your teen is autistic, ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, we work with how their brain and body actually function. In parent support, this means helping you understand sensory needs, shutdowns, meltdowns, and energy limits so your responses reduce stress instead of increasing it. The goal is not to change who your teen is, but to support them in ways that fit.

Your teen’s gender or sexuality is not a problem to fix. In parent support, we focus on helping you respond with confidence, respect, and care, whether your teen is out, questioning, or still figuring things out. We talk through family dynamics, safety, and communication so your teen feels supported without pressure or fear.

Trauma informed care means moving at a pace that feels as safe as possible for both you and your teen. In parent and caregiver sessions, we focus on understanding how stress and past experiences may be shaping your teen’s behavior now. This helps you respond with steadiness rather than urgency or panic, even in hard moments.

Your family does not exist in a vacuum. In parent support, we name how systems like diet culture, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, and racism can impact your teen and your parenting choices. The goal is not blame, but clarity. You are not failing. You are navigating systems that make this harder than it should be.

EMDR is a structured approach that helps the brain process experiences that still feel overwhelming. In parent support, this framework helps us understand why certain moments trigger big reactions and how to support regulation and safety without pushing your teen beyond what they can handle.

Somatic work focuses on how stress and connection show up in the body. In parent support, we look at how tension, fear, or disconnection can impact interactions at home. This helps you recognize when your teen needs grounding, space, or reassurance, and how to offer it in ways that feel stabilizing.

HAES separates health from weight and moral judgment. In parent support, this means shifting away from food rules, body monitoring, and shame, and toward trust, nourishment, and safety. We focus on supporting your teen’s well being without reinforcing harmful messages about bodies or worth.

CBT helps caregivers understand the connection between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors — and how these patterns can shape a child or teen’s relationship with food, body image, and distress. CBT-E is a form of CBT specifically designed for eating disorders. Together, we look at how rules around food, monitoring, reassurance, or avoidance may be impacting recovery, and practice more supportive, flexible ways of responding that reduce power struggles and increase trust.

ACT focuses on making room for hard feelings while staying connected to what matters most. For parents, this often means learning how to tolerate fear or uncertainty while still showing up in ways that align with your values and long-term goals for your teen.

DBT skills offer practical tools for intense emotions. In parent support, we focus on helping you model regulation, communicate clearly, and respond to emotional surges with steadiness. You get to choose what tools actually work for your family, not a one-size-fits-all approach.

I do not expect overnight change or perfect behavior. In parent support, harm reduction means focusing on what helps things feel safer and more manageable right now. We look for small, realistic shifts that reduce risk and stress, while respecting your teen’s nervous system and the reality your family is navigating.

Intuitive eating focuses on rebuilding trust with food and the body without rigid rules or pressure. In parent support, this means helping you understand how hunger, fullness, and emotional needs show up for your teen, so your responses support nourishment and safety without creating more conflict or shame.

Therapist Allison VanGordon (they/she), specializing in neuro-affirming and weight-neutral care.

Allison VanGordon, LPC

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FROM THE FOUNDER

Why Work With Embodied Therapy?

“I will never ask you to shrink yourself to make others comfortable.” -Allison VanGordon, LPC

Parents we work with are carrying a lot. You are trying to keep your teen safe, manage meals and moods, talk to providers, handle school, and still function as a human. This is not what you imagined parenting would look like, and you were never given a manual for this.

Our work is grounded in body liberation, harm reduction, and respect for lived experience. We do not see “the problem parent.” We see caregivers doing their best inside systems that often fail families. We will be honest with you about risk, name the impact of diet culture and oppression, and support you in finding ways to show up that feel aligned, informed, and sustainable.

Basing our approach on three core principles:

Care outside the system

Healing here is not determined by insurance requirements, BMI cutoffs, or diagnostic thresholds. You do not need to prove your suffering to receive meaningful support.

Identity is not the problem

Queerness, neurodivergence, and difference are not things to be corrected. Therapy here affirms identity and works with your nervous system rather than against it.

Compassion before change

Many coping strategies once served an important purpose. We take time to understand them with care before exploring what you are ready to shift.

Our Therapy Approach

How Therapy Works

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Create Safety

We start by building safety in the relationship so conversations feel less reactive and more supportive.

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Understanding

We make sense of your teen’s behaviors and stress responses so you can respond with clarity instead of fear.

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Support Healing

Together, we create tools and boundaries that support your teen while also supporting you.

Frequently Asked Questions

Most parent support sessions are either individual meetings with or group sessions with their teen, depending on what is most helpful. Sometimes it is important for you to have space on your own, and other times it can be useful to bring your teen or other caregivers into the room. We make those decisions together and only in ways that feel supportive to your teen and aligned with their treatment plan.

It is common for teens to feel scared, defensive, or unsure about therapy. Parent support can still be very helpful even if your teen is not ready to engage. We can talk through options, safety planning, and how to respond to their resistance in ways that keep the door open without ignoring the seriousness of what is going on.

Yes. Parent sessions can complement your teen’s existing treatment. When it is appropriate and with consent, we are happy to coordinate with other providers so we are all working in the same direction. Our focus together will be on your role, your coping, and how to support the treatment plan at home.

You are welcome here even if you are the only caregiver seeking support. We can talk about how to communicate with other adults in your teen’s life, set boundaries, and make choices that align with your values. If others are open to it, they are also welcome to join sessions at any point.

Most parents start with weekly 50 minute sessions so we can build momentum and respond to what is happening in real time. As things stabilize, we may shift to every other week or as needed. We will regularly check in about what is helpful and adjust the frequency together.

You can begin by scheduling a brief consultation. We will talk about what is going on with your teen, what support you are looking for, and whether my approach feels like a good fit. From there we can schedule an intake and decide how to structure support for you and your family.

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